I am very excited to be sharing this news with you -- next month I will be launching not one, but two Death Cafes -- one in Auburn and one in Roseville.
This has been a dream of mine for quite some time and I'm really looking forward to the experience. Let me tell you just a little about it and then you can decide if it feels like something you'd like to explore. First of all, you can find more information at the Death Cafe website. A Death Cafe was not my idea but rather the Death Cafe model was developed by Jon Underwood and Sue Barsky Reid, based on the ideas of Bernard Crettaz. Jon Underood started his in London and the idea has quickly spread throughout Europe, North America and Austrailia.
The concept is simply to create a safe and comfortable space for people (often strangers) to gather, eat cake, drink tea and talk about death. The Death Cafe objective is 'to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives'.
This concept has long appealed to me as I'm sure it might to many of you. I grew up feeling that death was scary and not to be discussed with children. My first experience of death was my grandfather dying when I was 9. We children were not allowed to go to the funeral. I was sad. I remember crying, but we didn't discuss it. When I was 13 my father died, and while I went to the funeral, I remember the adults in my life being clearly uncomfortable with the idea of how to talk about it. They distracted us kids with activities and fun.
I have been to funerals where it is not so much about the person who has passed but about a religious agenda and it pains me as I wanted to hear about the honored person. I wanted to say good bye.
For all these reasons, I really believe in the idea of having a place to talk about our feelings without judgment. Death Cafes are always offered with these criteria:
- On a not for profit basis
- In an accessible, respectful and confidential space
- With no intention of leading people to any conclusion, product or course of action
- Alongside refreshing drinks and nourishing food – and cake!
So it is with great excitement and so much enthusiasm for what is to come that I announce these two Death Cafes.
In Auburn, CA ~
And Roseville, CA~
Please feel free to contact me with any questions or comments. Note there are facebook pages for both venues so please "like" both pages so that you can follow how things go. We will have write ups following the meetings and postings relative to death, dying and grieving.
The Auburn one will be ongoing on a monthly basis and I am so very blessed to have two wonderful co-facilitators. We are all loving putting this together and we all share a passion for it.
I am facilitating the Roseville one. I am going to see how the first meeting goes. I am open to hostessing this one monthly as well, or quarterly, depending on group consensus.